Topping Confidence is the definitive, expert-written guide for gay men who want to top comfortably - covering everything from technique and stamina to communication, positioning and lasting confidence.
LGBTQ+ Sexual Health Educator | Certified Sex Therapist | 14+ Years Experience
Dr. Carter has spent over a decade working with LGBTQ+ men on sexual health, confidence and technique. After seeing how much anxiety and misinformation surrounds first-time topping, he created Topping Confidence to give men an honest, medically informed and shame-free resource.
His approach combines anatomy, behavioural psychology and real-world sexual health coaching - helping readers understand their bodies and how to work with them rather than against them.
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A clear breakdown of technique for first-time tops - covering movement, pace, depth and angle so you feel in control from the start.
Practical, proven methods to address the mental side of topping - including confidence building exercises and mindset shifts that make a real difference.
How to build and maintain stamina, manage arousal levels and pace yourself so both you and your partner enjoy the experience fully.
The best starting positions for first-time tops, how to transition between them confidently and which give you the most control and comfort.
How to communicate openly with your partner before, during and after - building trust and making the experience better for both of you.
The mental and physical habits that experienced tops use to feel consistently confident, comfortable and genuinely enjoy the role.
Hundreds of gay men have used the methods in this guide to go from anxious and uncertain to genuinely confident and comfortable as a top. The guide addresses technique, mindset and physical factors together for the best possible result.
By following the step-by-step protocols, most readers feel meaningfully more prepared and confident after their first read-through - with growing ease over time as the techniques become second nature.
Age 26, London
"I had wanted to try topping for years but the anxiety and not knowing where to start held me back. This guide answered every question I was too embarrassed to ask anyone. The performance anxiety section alone was worth the price."
Age 33, Manchester
"Even though I had tried topping before, I still struggled with confidence and stamina. The practical technique advice and the mindset work in here genuinely changed my experience. I wish I had found this years ago."
Age 29, New York
"The communication chapter was a game changer for me. No other resource explained how to talk openly with a partner about topping so clearly and practically. I feel so much more in control now and that confidence shows."
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Topping Confidence is the most comprehensive beginner guide to topping for gay men available today. Written by a certified LGBTQ+ health specialist, this research-backed guide is delivered as a downloadable PDF, DOCX, and EPUB file - covering every aspect of technique, stamina, confidence, communication and positioning.
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Preparation for first-time topping covers three main areas - technique, mindset and communication. The guide walks you through each in detail, starting with understanding anatomy and how to approach movement comfortably, through to managing any performance anxiety and communicating clearly with your partner.
Performance anxiety when topping is extremely common and almost always psychological rather than physical. Pressure to perform, fear of not lasting, or simply the unfamiliarity of the role are the most frequent causes. The guide covers proven mental techniques and practical strategies that help you stay relaxed, present and confident.
Certain positions give the top more control over pace, depth and angle - making the experience far more comfortable and manageable for both partners. The guide covers the best starting positions for beginners and explains exactly why they work, along with how to transition between positions confidently as you become more comfortable.
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